Releasing My Expectations, OVER and OVER Again
Reading Time: 2 minutesSometimes, I just gotta acknowledge that my own grief is getting in my way of helping other people change. I’m not talking about grief related to the losses happening in clients lives, like the more obvious events & losses. Those are hard...
Do’s and Don’ts of MI
Reading Time: 2 minutesYou are in the business of helping people change! Yet sometimes you may inadvertently say things that contribute to client resistance to change. Let’s take a look! I invite you to ask yourself these questions: Do I listen more than I talk? Or...
Vampire Spells and Other Things I Learn When I’m Curious
Reading Time: 2 minutesOne night recently, I tucked my youngest daughter in for bed, as usual. But she just didn’t fall asleep. What on earth is going on? Maybe starting back to school has her keyed up? “You ok honey? Do you need anything?” I asked, one of the many...
Sensitive Topics! Developing discrepancy & Remaining Curious!
Reading Time: 2 minutesWe’ve all had situations when we have an issue or concern to address with a client…maybe a client didn’t tell the truth, or follow a rule in an organization, or maybe they’re engaging in reckless behavior and you’re...
Ask-Offer-Ask!
Reading Time: 2 minutesSometimes I forget that I can’t make other people change. But I do know that when I forget this, I actually make it harder for them to change. Why? Because when I forget that I can’t make other people change, I fall into persuading, convincing,...
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