Playing Tug O’War with your clients?
Playing Tug O’War with your clients? Do you ever feel like you are in a Tug O’War with a client about change?Think about it. When YOU have played the actual Tug of War game, with a rope cutting into your hands, feet dug in, leaning back, trying to avoid getting pulled...
Stop Arguing for Change
Stop Arguing for Change You heard me. Stop arguing for change with your clients. But wait, “Isn’t it my job to help clients change? I can’t stop championing change!”Sometimes I think about ambivalence being a delicate flame, like when you are starting a campfire when...
Can I Use Motivational Interviewing All of the Time?
Can I Use Motivational Interviewing All of the Time? I periodically get the question, “Do you use Motivational Interviewing all of the time?” Yes… and no. Let’s break it down.The simplest definition of MI, as cited in the Miller & Rollnick Motivational...
Lock in Empathy!
Lock in Empathy! What does empathy have to do with it? Motivational Interviewing is all about empathy! You can have empathy without Motivational Interviewing, but you can’t have Motivational Interviewing without empathy!I’m a parent, and as a practitioner and trainer...
Whose Problem Is It? My daughter, scissors, and a very short haircut.
Whose Problem Is It? My daughter, scissors, and a very short haircut. A kid, scissors, and a VERY short haircutStory Time!!I’m going to tell you a story about my feisty youngest daughter. When she was 4 or 5 years old, I was in the kitchen doing dishes while she was...
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